By Beth Jones

To read Part One, click here.

She's A Fun Friend And Recreational Companion

Live happily with the woman you love through the fleeting days of life, for the wife God gives you is your best reward down here for all your earthly toil. (Ecclesiastes 9:9 TLB)

God wants husbands and wives happy!

My husband loves to ride his motorcycle and he likes me to be his passenger. When the weather is good, we make it a point to go for rides together. We'll find little cafés or back roads to visit and have a great time together. He wants and needs my companionship and these little trips have helped bond us together.

Wives, be subject to your husbands [subordinate and adapt yourselves to them], as is right and fitting and your proper duty in the Lord. (Colossians 3:18 AMP)

Submission has become such a negative word in secular and Christian circles. "I am woman, hear me roar" has become the theme song for many women. How about putting your "gun" down and looking for ways to enjoy life with your husband? You might be surprised to know that he'd like to spend more time with you, if you weren't whining or criticizing him. If your husband likes to fish, or watch football, or ride bikes, why don't you ask him if he'd like your company and enjoy these recreational hobbies together? What is his favorite meal? Restaurant? Activity? Surprise him and enjoy it together.

She Gives Him Sexual Fulfillment

Speaking of his favorite activity! Sex is a good thing. Sex is a God thing. He created us to enjoy sexual relations with our spouse. Reaching fulfillment in the sex act brings a great deal of unity, joy and peace to the marriage relationship. Unfortunately, many Christian gals have been given an unhealthy view of sex with their husbands and they "endure" or dutifully perform sex with their husbands, rather than enjoying it. God wants us to enjoy sex as much as our husbands do!

You heard about the couple that went to the doctor, right? The doctor pulled the wife aside and told her, "Your husband is going to die unless you do three things." Willing to do anything to help her husband, she asked, "What three things doctor?" "First, you'll have to wait on him hand and foot 24/7. Second, you'll have to compliment and admire him 24/7. Third, you'll have to have sex with him 24/7." The woman went out to the waiting area where her husband was sitting and he asked her, "What did the doctor say?" She replied, "You're gonna die."

So, let's have a little sex talk! Remember, God wants you and your husband to be as free, "naked and unashamed," as Adam and Eve were in the garden before the fall!

Let your wife be a fountain of blessing for you. Rejoice in the wife of your youth. She is a loving doe, a graceful deer. Let her breasts satisfy you always. May you always be captivated by her love. Why be captivated, my son, with an immoral woman, or embrace the breasts of an adulterous woman? (Proverbs 5:18-20 NLT)

Satisfaction! Are you both satisfied? Talk with your husband about what satisfies him in the bedroom and share with him what satisfies you!

Face it girls, your husband is turned on by looking at your body! Strange, isn't it? Our husbands don't understand why they can walk around the house naked and we can still read our magazine, unaffected! Men and women are just created differently. Women need more emotional and physical touch to get the passion going.

It seems unfair, doesn't it? He can be ready to go in a microsecond by just looking at you; while perhaps it takes you a bit longer to get in the groove. As someone has said, men are like microwaves and women are like crock pots.

Many women desire and enjoy the sexual relationship just as much as men do, but generally speaking our husband's are going to have a stronger sex drive than us gals, and it's important that we do our best to keep up! Be the one who satisfies your husband's God-given need for sexual intimacy.

The husband should not deprive his wife of sexual intimacy, which is her right as a married woman, nor should the wife deprive her husband. The wife gives authority over her body to her husband, and the husband also gives authority over his body to his wife. So do not deprive each other of sexual relations. The only exception to this rule would be the agreement of both husband and wife to refrain from sexual intimacy for a limited time, so they can give themselves more completely to prayer. Afterward they should come together again so that Satan won't be able to tempt them because of their lack of self-control. (1 Corinthians 7:3-6 NLT)

... you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body. (1 Corinthians 6:20 NIV)

Do you think you could actually honor God by giving your body to your husband in sexual intimacy? It's true. You can honor God with your body by giving yourself to your husband.

But the LORD said to Samuel, ‘Do not look at his appearance or at his physical stature, because I have refused him. For the LORD does not see as man sees; for man looks at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart.' (1 Samuel 16:7 NKJV)

So girls, whether we like it or not or whether it's right or not, it's a fact—men look on the outward appearance. It's great that the Lord looks on the heart, but it's a truth that people, especially men, look on the outer appearance. That means that you need to pay attention to your appearance: your weight, your clothing, your hair, your make-up and all that superficial stuff! Perhaps it's a bitter pill to swallow, but if your husband was honest, he'd like you to look nice, to dress in attractive attire and to keep your weight at a reasonable place.

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